Showing posts with label rules and styles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rules and styles. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

7 Rules of Life

1. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything,give it time.
4. Don't compare your life with others & don't judge them.You have no idea what their journey is all about.
5. Stop thinking too much,it's alright not to know the answers.They will come to you when you least expect it.
6. No one is in-charge of your happiness,except you.
7. Smile,You don't own all the problems in the world.

Tuesday, April 01, 2014

5 Leadership Styles to Inspire Peak Performance

leadership-styles-management-styles-peak-performanceWhat qualities and management styles do great managers possess to inspire and motivate their employees to deliver at their peak performance? The job of the manager is to get things done by leading others to success. Use these 5 leadership styles to get the most out of your employees.
It is important to develop management styles that suit different situations. Each leader has their own leadership styles and it is your job to inspire your employees to deliver at their peak performance.  Your ability to organize the work and to supervise your staff effectively to get the job done on schedule and on budget is the key to getting the results for which you are responsible.

The Best Management Styles

According to numerous surveys of employees in the work world, the best bosses and supervisors possess three management styles:
1. Structure. Everyone knows exactly what needs to be done, why it is to be done, and to what standard.
2. Consideration. The boss makes employees feel that he or she really cares about them.
3. Freedom. Good bosses give their people freedom to perform. Once they have assigned a task, they try to stay out of the way, except to comment and to help when needed.

Discovering Your Leadership Styles

One of your jobs as the leader is to be a teacher. The reason you are in charge is because of your leadership styles and your superior level of knowledge and skill. If you would like to continue to develop your management styles and master your true talents download my free report “Discovering Your Talents.”  One of the most helpful things you do is to pass on your knowledge and skill to those who report to you. Teach other people how to do the job that you have already mastered. You multiply your output by teaching someone else how to do something that only you can do. And you increase their value to the business.

The 5 Keys to Inspire Peak Performance

1. Accept complete responsibility for your staff. You choose them, you assign them, and you manage them. You are responsible for your staff to operate at their peak performance.
2. Look upon your staff with the same patience and understanding as you would look upon younger members of your family.
3. Practice the Friendship Factor with them, which is composed of three components: time, care, and respect. Give staff time when they want to talk. Express care and concern for them and their problems. Treat them with respect, the same way you would treat a customer or friend.
4. Practice Servant Leadership, by seeing your job as a position of trust with your subordinates. Just as they are there to serve you and the company, you are there to serve them, as well.
5. Practice Golden Rule Management. Treat each person the way you would like to be treated if the situation were reversed. When you practice Golden Rule Management—you manage other people the way you would like to be managed—you will elicit peak performance from your employees more than in any other way.

Get What You Need Out of Your Employees

By using and developing these techniques and leadership styles you will notice a change in your employees work. By practicing these management styles you will bring your team to great success, increase productivity in the workplace and inspire peak performance in your employees.
I hope you enjoyed reading the article on leadership styles. If you liked what you read, please share and comment below.

12 Positive Steps to Take When Stressed and Depressed

Exercise is proven to produce an increase in chemicals such as endorphins, which can make us feel less depressed – and can help to lessen fatigue as well.  Exercises are available for individuals of all ability levels, and patients should discuss an appropriate exercise program with their doctor. 

Stress management program
Stress management program
Many strategies, such as meditation, yoga, guided-imagery, progressive relaxation, bio-feedback, and even regular napping, are available to manage stress, which in turn, can help to make you less susceptible to life’s ups and downs.  Which technique you choose doesn’t matter, it is only important that you stay committed and practice the exercises you find to be helpful.

Talk about it
Talk about it
Confiding in a trusted friend or family member about difficult feelings or thoughts can often improve your mood.

Commit to one activity each week
Commit to one activity each week
Being accountable to a group can be a motivator to change your environment and get social support – which can ultimately be uplifting.

Write in a journal
Write in a journal
Take time to write down your emotions, the act of which is a very safe outlet to release negative thoughts that may be building up inside.

Develop a spiritual interest
Develop a spiritual interest
Spending time in nature, prayer, meditation, or a religious setting, are all forms of spiritual practice.  How you define spirituality does not really matter; the important thing is that you feel connected with something greater than yourself.  When firmly grounded in a spiritual belief, one can come back to this centered place – especially during times of stress or sadness – and find great comfort.

Find your bliss
Find your bliss
What is the one thing in your life that makes you want to get up in the morning and keep going even when your body wants to rollover and go back to sleep?  What images can you think of that make you smile?  This can be a loved one, a job, a hobby, or even a higher purpose.  Your bliss can be a great motivator when you need an incentive to care for yourself.

Help others
Help others
Volunteering is a great way to improve self-esteem and combat feelings of worthlessness.  Frequently volunteers report feeling physically, emotionally, and intellectually recharged after doing something for others.

Reward yourself
Reward yourself
Do something that makes you feel good (and causes no harm).  Ideas include getting a massage, renting your favorite DVD, spending time at the park, enjoying a delicious meal, and reading a great book, just to name a few.

Adopt a pet
Adopt a pet
Although a pet can be hard work initially, owning a pet can help to take one’s attention away from his or her despair.  Pets provide unconditional love that is so desperately needed during depressive episodes.

Create a gratitude list
Create a gratitude list
By consciously taking the time to shift the focus from all that is going wrong, to all that is going right in your life, you can create moments of pleasure.

Maintain a sense of humor
Maintain a sense of humor
Laughing provides therapeutic value – even consciously smiling can help you to feel better.

Monday, March 24, 2014

Which Are Key Success Factors?

Your primary goal should be to increase the likelihood that you will be one of those remarkable people who achieves greatly and makes a real difference with his or her life. And this is very much in your own hands.
To realize your full potential, you must focus on your career goals, hard work and success factors. Free yourself as much as possible from randomness and uncertainty. You must organize your life in such a way that the probabilities of achieving your career goals are extremely high.
You must learn the cause and effect relationships between what you want and how to get it through hard work and goal planning. You must take complete control over every part of your life and create your own future. You must leave nothing to chance.

Luck or Hard Work?

When people achieve great success faster than others, they are immediately accused of having “good luck” and rarely attribute it to hard work. When people make a mess of their lives, largely due to their own shortcomings, they dismiss it as “bad luck.”
One of the reasons for this confusion about the reasons for success and failure is that most people don’t understand the difference between “chance” and “luck.” Chance refers to gambling, to casinos, to blackjack, poker, slot machines and horse racing. In games of chance, the outcome is almost completely out of your control and has nothing to do with success factors in life.
Luck however is something completely different from chance. What we call “luck” is really the Law of Probabilities in action. The “lucky” individual has done many things that in combination dramatically increased the likelihood that his or her desired career goals would be achieved. If you examine the history of any great success, and review the many actions that preceded it, you will see that the success factors precede it; you will see a definite pattern emerge. You will see that the successful individual did many little things, sometimes for years, which made the final success possible.

The Basic Principle of Achieving Your Career Goals

Here is a rule: There is a direct relationship between the number of different things you attempt and your likelihood of eventual success in achieving your career goals.
If a new salesperson gets up early each morning, works hard, plans his day, works steadily all day long, talks to as many prospects as possible, follows up persistently, and continually works on himself to improve his selling skills by reading, audio learning and regular attendance at sales courses and seminars, he is going to be far more successful than another salesperson who fails to do these things. His high earnings will not be a matter of luck but rather of design and hard work.
Success factors in life and in your career goals are as follows, if you get a good education, thoughtfully match your career choice with your natural talents and abilities, and continually work to upgrade your skills and the value of your contribution to your company, your eventual success by achieving you career goals will not be the result of luck.

Create Success Factors For Yourself

An additional luck factor is The Law of Averages, which is an extension of the law of probabilities. This law says that, “Although you cannot predict which one of a series of events will be successful, by the Law of Averages, you know that by doing a certain thing a certain number of times, you will achieve your career goals.”
If you read more books, you are much more likely to read something that can help you in your work or personal life and you are adding to your success factors. If you put in hard work by making more sales calls, you will be much more likely to meet the prospect who has an immediate need for what you are selling and you are adding to your success factors.

Achieve Your Life Goals

If you continually innovate and try new methods to achieve your goals or solve your key problems, you are going to be vastly more successful than someone who plays it safe and tries nothing new or different and you are adding to your success factors. If you wish to achieve success in life and reach you’re career goals, you must put in hard work and invest in the success factors that will get you there. Get my FREE Way to Wealth Report and identify the three keys to a successful business.
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Monday, March 17, 2014

The Key To A Better Life: Creating Positive Habits

You can improve your life by incorporating
positive habits step by step

A habit, according to, is "an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary"; "a particular practice, custom, or usage".

A positive habit, therefore, it's an acquired positive behaviour or action.

It is actually quite easy to create good habits.

The problem lies in that we do not have a plan, a structure or any idea of how to go about it, and then "I wished I exercised more" stays in wishful thinking.

Start helping yourself to these positive phrases, use the best positive quotes or immerse yourself in these positive phrases for the day.

Here are some good habits that you may like to have:

Stop smoking.
Feeling calm and getting rid of anxiety.
Eating healthy.
Feeling better about yourself.
Overcoming procrastination.
Being more appreciative of everything and being thankful daily.
Being organised.
Facing the day with a positive attitude.
You can incorporate to your life any positive habit, if you are consistent enough to take a few actions repeatedly for a specific amount of time.

Lasting changes, not temporary fixes

You create steady habits by repeating a certain beneficial action during a certain period of time, with a plan to support you on achieving what you want.

Performing an action once or twice does not make a habit and won't result in any noticeable benefits.

Find out here how you can start making good habits and effect positive changes.

30 days

You only need 30 days to give yourself the chance of creating a new habit.

I tried several ways of creating the habit of exercising, but I used to give up by the fifth day (yes, that quickly, despite all my good intentions).

Find out more about how to work on 30 days to positive habits.

The SMART technique of setting goals combined with a 30-day plan helped me to establish a variety of habits, including meditating and exercising daily.

Find out more about the powerful way to achieving positive habits through SMART goals.

Another excellent technique to acquire new habits effortlessly is using kaizen positive thinking - positive thinking in small steps.

You can make positive thinking one of your good habits and enjoy a better quality of life, starting with the habit of repeating phrases.

I've got it!

Unfortunately, in regards to positive thinking, you can never say that "you've got it", and then you are positive forever and ever.

Rather, life is a journey and we are always growing. You won't be able to avoid negative circumstances and difficulties.

The good news is that you can make positive thinking a habit to help you face life in a fuller, corageous and positive way.

You can learn how to become a positive person.

Empowering your mind

One of the positive programs that made me more conscious of my lifestyle choices and helped me take the first steps toward creating positive habits is Holosync.

This program uses soundtracks with the soothing sound of rain falling and combines different types of sound waves, scientifically researched and designed to help your left and right hemispheres of your brain work wholistically.

The result? An increased self-awareness, a stronger sense of intuition, and a heightened perception of the choices we make daily that give shape to our lives.

After a short while of listening to this program you may find that you start to consciously using your thoughts to create the most favorable circumstances in your life.

Thursday, March 06, 2014

10 Must Read Life Lessons from Buddha

Siddhartha Gautama was a great spiritual leader from ancient India who founded Buddhism. In most Buddhist traditions, he is considered the Supreme Buddha. “Buddha” is interpreted to mean “awakened one” or “the enlightened one.”
Siddhartha is the primary figure in Buddhism, and the accounts of his life, teachings, and monastic rules were recapitulated after his death and memorized by his followers.
Today I want to discuss some very important life lessons which I’ve derived from the teachings of Buddha.

10 Must Read Life Lessons from Buddha:

1. Its Okay to Start Small

“A jug fills drop by drop.
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Every artist was once an amateur.”
We all start small, do not despise small beginnings. If you’re consistent, and if you’re patient, you will succeed! No one succeeds over night; success belongs to those who are willing to start small and patiently work until their jug is filled.

2. Thoughts Become Things

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.”
Buddha said, “The mind is everything. What you think you become.” James Allen said, “Man is mind.”
In order to live rightly, you must fill your mind with “right” thoughts.
Your thinking determines your actions; your actions determine your outcome. Right thinking will grant you everything you desire; wrong thinking is a vice that will eventually destroy you.
If you change your thinking you will change your life. Buddha said, “All wrong-doing arises because of mind. If mind is transformed can wrong-doing remain?”

3. Forgive

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
When you release those who you are holding captive in the prison of un-forgiveness, it is you who is released from prison. You can’t keep someone down, without staying down with them. Learn to forgive, learn to forgive quickly.

4. It’s Your Actions That Count

“However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them?”
They say “Talk is cheap,” because it is. To progress you must act; to progress quickly, you must act daily. Greatness will not fall upon you!
Greatness is for everyone, but only those who are willing to act consistently will experience it. There’s a proverb that goes, “God gives every bird a worm, but he doesn’t throw it into their nest.” To be great you must act great. Buddha said, “I do not believe in a fate that falls on men however they act; but I do believe in a fate that falls on them unless they act.”

5. Seek to Understand

“In a controversy the instant we feel anger we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.”
Stephen Covey said, “Seek to understand first, then to be understood.” Easily said, very difficult to do; you must labor to understand the “other” person’s perspective. When you feel anger rising, let it cease. Listen to others, understand their perspective, and you will have more peace. Be more concerned with being happy, than being right

6. Conquer Yourself

“It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.”
He who can conquer himself is greater than the mighty. To conquer yourself you must conquer your mind. You must control your thinking. Your thoughts cannot be tossed to and fro like the waves of the sea. You may be thinking, “I can’t control my thoughts, if a thought comes, it comes.” To that I say, you may not be able to stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can certainly stop him from building a nest in your hair. Dismiss thoughts that are contrary to the life you desire to live. Buddha said, “It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe that lures him to evil ways.”

7. Live in Peace

“Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”
Don’t look without for something that can only be found within. Many times we may look without only to distract ourselves from the reality we know is true. That reality is that peace can only be found within. Peace is not a new job, peace is not a new car, or a new spouse….peace is a new perspective, and that new perspective begins with you.

8. Be Thankful

“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so, let us all be thankful.”
There’s always something to be thankful for. Don’t be so pessimistic that for a moment, even a split moment, you fail to realize the thousands of things you have to be thankful for. Everyone didn’t wake up this morning; some people went to sleep last night for the last time. There’s always something to be grateful for, recognize it, and give thanks. A grateful heart will make you great!

9. Be True to What You Know

“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.”
We know a lot, but we don’t always do what we know. If you fail, it won’t be because you didn’t know; it will be because you didn’t do what you knew to do. Work to do what you know to do. Don’t just consume information, but ponder on thoughts that are conducive to what you desire to become until you have a burning desire to manifest it.

10. Travel Well

“It is better to travel well than to arrive.”
Life is about the journey! I’m not trying to arrive, I’m already there. I am happy, and content, and satisfied where I am today. I may experience nicer places, and finer wines, but I am traveling well. Don’t put off your happiness into some nebulous time in the future based on some goal that you think will bring you happiness. Travel well today, enjoy the journey.

21 Big Secrets of The Life Everybody Wants

Who is in the driver’s seat of your life? Your job? Your family? The changing wind of life’s circumstances?
Ask yourself, “Is my life the way I want it to be?” If not, what is blocking you from jumping in the driver’s seat of your life?

Sometimes, it feels impossible to take control when you are stuck in a job you dislike because it pays the bills. Or when you can’t find a job. Or when you know your friends or family will reject you if you choose a different life path.
Life can sometimes be like a sticky spider web — the more you struggle against it, the more stuck you become.

Yes, life does have limitations, some of which are unchangeable. But a very large percentage of our lives is in our control — enough to profoundly impact how fulfilled and happy we feel on a daily basis.
Just knowing that you have some control is enough to change your perspective from hopeless to optimistic.

Creating The Life You Want

The very first step toward creating the life you want is to become a blank slate. Allow yourself to be open to some new ways of thinking, a different perspective. This may require you to shift some old beliefs or let go of your current “personal operating system“.
When you begin to make small shifts in your thinking, you open big doors for new ideas and opportunities.

21 Truths to Living the Life Your Want

1.  Understand that sustained happiness rarely comes from outside circumstances. Your wealth, beauty, power, or acquisitions have far less to do with happiness than your appreciation for what you have this very moment and your loving relationships with others.

2. You can live your life by design, but you must acknowledge your power in that, plan for it, and take the necessary actions.

3. You can’t have it all, but you can have enough to be very happy. Prioritise and focus on the top 3 or 4 most important areas of your life.

4. Stop focusing on what you don’t have or don’t like. Focus on what you do have and do like, and create a plan for what you think you can improve and change.

5. Abandon perfectionism. It is a useless pursuit with no end. It creates stress and unhappiness. Learn to find the balance point between good enough and peaceful living.

6. Put your own deepest needs first. If you are living for others before yourself and pushing your own needs aside, eventually you will crumble in some way — through depression, anger, anxiety or destructive behaviours.

7. Your choices may disappoint or offend others. That is sometimes necessary in order to grow and live authentically. Those who love you and want the best for you will accept and support you.

8. Count your blessings. You probably already have many of the things you want for your life. Don’t take them for granted.

9. Address personal issues head-on. Don’t use these as an excuse for not having what you want in life. If you have a wound, a personality or relationship problem, or an anxiety, go to a counsellor and work on it. Resolve it. Weak people don’t go to counsellors, but strong forward-moving people do.

10. Pick one small problem or irritation and resolve it. Feel how much personal power and energy that gives you. Imagine how it would feel to resolve one of your bigger problems or concerns.

11. Consider disengaging from people who bring you down or drain your energy. Build relationships with people who are positive, action-oriented, and supportive.

12. Pick the one change that would make the biggest positive difference in your life. Begin visualising your life with this change implemented. Practise this regularly throughout the day.

13. Take this one step further and begin writing some specific action steps that might help make this change happen.

14. Strengthen your strengths. Make yourself indispensable in your area(s) of interest and expertise.

15. Always leave time for fun. Make fun happen in your life.

16. Don’t neglect your relationships. Don’t take them for granted. Find out what makes your loved ones happy, and do that for them.

17. Learn to let it go. Worry is the most fruitless expenditure of energy on the planet. Very little is worth worrying about. If you must do something, take action instead.

18. Don’t assume that you can’t do something. Prove that you can’t, and if so, try something else.

19. More often than not, your fear is the culprit for inaction.  More often than not, your fears are unfounded or at least out of proportion. More often than not, your fear will go away once you take action.

20. Focus on the task at hand. When you feel overwhelmed and pulled in many directions, just pick an important thing and do it without distraction. Then do another one.

21. Life is short. You have a limited number of days on this Earth. There isn’t time to waste your days in worry, anger or frustration. Make the most of this moment and the next and the next and the next . . .

If you want to have a wonderful life, spend your days in positive, forward-moving action and thought. Dismiss your longings for what you don’t have. Enjoy the actions as much or more than the outcomes.
The real secret to having the life you want is learning to love the life that you have.
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How to Achieve Unclear to Pretty Clear Thoughts in just 3 Steps

Time and time again, I’ve watched coaching clients walk into my office stuck, in the fog of confusion about some situation in their lives. They are sure that they don’t know how to move forward, that they don’t know which next step to take.
We’ve all been there – in that uncertain, frustrating place. It’s no fun.

Time and time again I’ve watched those same clients walk out of my office having uncovered a clear, wise answer to their questions, a clear resolution to their dilemma, the kind that allows them to move forward with that wonderful sense of confidence and calm.

I certainly didn’t give them their answers – I don’t have them. They found the answers inside. We followed a simple process that cleared a space for their own answers to emerge.
This article is a guide to doing that process on your own. In 3 simple steps, you can shift from a state of confusion to mental clarity.

All of us have an ever-present, remarkable well of inner wisdom, there for us whenever we need it. The tricky part is learning to access it. Our inner guru speaks quietly. In the midst of busy lives and busy minds, it can be difficult to hear.

Here’s how to access the wealth of wisdom within us and overcome mental confusion, in three steps.

Step 1: Clear Confusion by Clearing Inner Clutter

Inner wisdom needs an open, quiet space to emerge. Problem is, our minds aren’t usually a quiet, open space.
They are typically cluttered with all kinds of stuff – fears, “shoulds”, and others’ opinions –and our minds are particularly cluttered with all of that when we are facing a difficult choice or navigating a challenging transition. That clutter drowns out the voice of our inner guidance system.
The first step to clearing confusion is to clear the mental clutter, which includes:

a. “Shoulds”

Ideas about what you “should” be doing, or things you want to do in an ideal situation. For example, how a “good” person (or a “good” mother, father, employee, friend, daughter, son etc.) would act in the situation.

When we take seriously or feel bound by ourselves, it becomes very difficult to decipher what we authentically want, what we truly value.

b. Fears

We’ve all had experiences when fear accurately warned us about a dangerous situation or person. But most of the time, our fears are irrational and over-reactive. They are about protecting our egos, not about protecting ourselves.

We’re plagued by fears that obscure the wisdom within — the fear of rejection or failure that keeps us from trying something new or going for our dreams; the fear of being unloved or being left out that causes us to censor ourselves and conform; the fear of the unknown that causes us to lead safe but unfulfilled lives.

These fears are like loud static that makes it hard to hear our inner voice, causing us to feel confused and distancing us away from the clarity within us all.

c. Inner Critic

We all have a critical inner voice that chatters away about how we don’t measure up. (In case you’ve been wondering if yours is pathological, you can relax. It’s normal. We are all hard-wired to have a tough inner critic.)

When we face a major decision that requires stepping up, taking risks, pursuing our dreams, telling difficult truths, being ourselves, that inner critic chatter tends to get louder, more frequent and more intrusive. It prevents us from hearing our own truth.
It needs to be cleared (or at least quieted down) for us to move away from confusion.

d. OPO – Other People’s Opinions

Then there are all those other people’s opinions echoing in your head: Your know parents will go through the roof if you quit the secure job and go for your passion. Your married friends will cheer if you get engaged, and be disappointed if you decide to wait.

You may also have internalised the attitudes of whole groups of people you are part of – your religious community, workplace, or extended family. There’s a whole darn crowd in your head!
Here’s the problem: it’s impossible to hear your own opinion, to sense where your inner guidance would lead you, with all those other people in your consciousness.

Your inner guide needs an open, empty space to emerge. It will come out when the one right person (that would be you) is listening.

e. Beliefs About What Isn’t Possible

Our inner guidance will often lead us toward creative solutions we would never consider if we were looking through our habitual lens of what’s possible or realistic.

For example, if you are sure that you can’t make a good salary doing something you are passionate about, you’ll be unable to hear any guidance from your inner wisdom that would give you ideas on how to do just that.

Clearing a space for inner guru, includes suspending –temporarily– your beliefs about what is and isn’t possible – to create a truly empty, open space, a blank canvas.

How to Clear the Mental Clutter

Take out a journal and write down all your mental clutter, downloading it from mind to page without editing: List all the “shoulds” you feel about the situation and any fears.

Write down the lines your inner critic is feeding you. Write down the other people’s opinions swarming in your mind. Write down all the things that is causing you confusion and anxiety. Make a list of any pertinent beliefs about what is or isn’t possible.

Then clear your mind of the clutter, using one of these simple tools:
  • Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Spend a few minutes letting go of any tension in your body. Then visualise emptying your mind of the clutter and confusion, one source a time. Use whatever imagery works for you. You might imagine a beautiful rain, washing it away; a candle burning it up; or a raft carrying it away on a peaceful lake.
  • Let these pages you’ve been writing on symbolise the mental clutter. Physically move the paper to a different part of the house. Then return to the original room, to a space metaphorically free of all those polluting influences. Then continue with step 2.
  • Give the clutter a send off. Close your eyes and imagine bundling up the clutter (the shoulds, fears, etc.) and taking it to a fun or beautiful place where it can rest without bothering you. Maybe you take all the clutter to your favourite beach, or a camping spot, or the mall. (Sounds hokey, I know, but it works.)

Step 2: Tap into Your Wisdom

Now, with a space cleared of confusion and mental clutter, tap into your inner wisdom. There are many ways to do this. Here are a few of my favourites:

a. Journal About the Big Questions:

  • If I could have it any way I wanted, if anything was possible, what would I want?
  • Deep down, what do I desire?
  • What’s the truth of this situation?
  • What next step am I being pulled toward?
  • What feels right?
Explore what arises in answer to these questions, particularly any fragmented words, images or ideas that does not make sense at first.
The more foreign the answers seem, the more your inner guidance is taking you beyond what your conscious mind is yet aware of. That’s a good thing.

b. Check In with Your Gut Instinct and Your Body

Try on different decisions and notice how they feel in your body. What feels energising, and what feels draining? What feels like a strong “no” in your body, and what feels like a “yes”? What feels scary but right?

The answers have subtle effects on your body, take your time to relax, and then ask yourself the questions, and see the first gut instinct reaction out of you.

c. Be Playful Visually

Doodle, draw, paint, or make a collage in response to the questions above. See what the images tell you.

d. Ask the Future You

Imagine yourself ten years from now, a fulfilled older you. Step into that person’s shoes and journal from his or her perspective. How did you resolve the dilemma you face now? What advice would that self give you?

e. Time Travel

Close your eyes and travel backward in time to visit your childhood self in his or her favourite place. Spend some time with him or her, just playing. Then ask him or her,
  • What would you want me to know about this situation?
  • What do you want here?
If an “I don’t know” feeling persists as you use these tools, that’s just fine. Ask yourself, in a friendly and compassionate way, “What more do I need, in order to know?

Use this clarifying question for all the other techniques above, if an “I don’t know” feeling emerges.
You may hear a clear “wait, just wait for now”, or you may hear “go get more information about x” or “you know the answer, you just need to face it.

Step 3: Trust & Respect What Emerged

To move from confusion to clarity, it’s not enough to simply go inside, find the answers, and leave it at that. It matters what you do with the answers once you have them.
Here are a few guidelines for how to integrate your inner guru into your daily life, and what to do with that wisdom once you’ve tapped it.

a. Treat It With Love and Respect

How would you treat a person with whom you wanted to develop a deeper, closer relationship with? That’s how you should treat your inner guide.

How would you want to treat someone who has always been there to support and love you, no matter your capacity to love back? That’s how you should treat your inner voice. Treat it with love, appreciation and respect.

b. Trust

Though it’s difficult, try to trust whatever emerged from your inner voice, even if it doesn’t yet make sense to you.

Often, our inner guidance system is so far ahead of our conscious minds and present-day lives that its guidance feels surprising. Live with the guidance lovingly and patiently and see what emerges. Be open to hearing more, to coming to understand.

c. It’s Okay to Feel Scared or Resistance

Maybe your inner wisdom is directing you to make a major life change or make a choice other people won’t understand. It’s okay to struggle with the direction you’ve been given. It’s even normal.

d. Protect What You’ve Discovered

Don’t throw your pearls before swine. Don’t share new, still gestating ideas with people who are unlikely to be supportive.

e. Remember that You Don’t Have to Figure It All Out

Maybe your inner guide presented a vision of your future you have no idea how to create. Maybe it reignited your passion for a dream you don’t know how to realise.

You don’t have to know how to make it all happen. That part is not your job. You only have to trust, be open to more guidance, and take one step forward at a time.

Next time you are feeling confused and overwhelmed, take a moment to step out of your current situation, and follow the 3 steps above. It’ll get easier with practise: clear mental clutter, tap into your inner clarity, and trusting the answers that rise out of your inner clarity.

* What do you do when you are distracted by confusion and mental clutter? What do you re-gain clarity? Share your tips and stories in the comment section. See you there!
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Wanna get Success - Here are 5 Steps which are Useful.

Today I want to talk about the ingredients that cause success. Why do some people succeed, while others fail? what separates the two. I’m constantly intrigued with the concepts involved in success and failure. I’ve dedicated my life to discovering and explaining what separates one from the other.

I spend my days learning about the laws and the principles of success. I believe if we learn these laws and principles we will succeed. In fact, if anyone learns these laws and principles, they will succeed.
The laws of success will move your life from the pit to the palace, from ordinary to extraordinary. With that, let’s take a look at five essential lessons on the causes of success.

5 Must Read Lessons on What Causes Success:

1. Understanding the Success Formula

Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure.”
–Earl Wilson

Success is usually the result of concentrated focus in an area where you have a natural advantage. Concentrated focus multiplies your effectiveness sevenfold. Concentrated focus makes the difference.

One man with discipline, determination, and focus will accomplish more than a 100 men who are merely interested.

The use of concentrated focus in an area where you are talented, will in time, grant you the opportunity to succeed. Success has almost nothing to do with luck. What people call luck is usually the offspring of concentrated focus. Success may appear to be the result of luck, but appearances are often deceiving.

2. Passionate Energy and Drive

“Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence.”

–Sloan Wilson

When we talk about concentrated effort, we’re talking about using our energy and drive in one area. Energy and drive will surely take you down the road of success. Energy and drive will cause you to climb the hurdles that keep others from succeeding.

Another word for “energy and drive” is passion. Are you passionate about your goal? If you’re going to succeed, you’re going to have to have an unprecedented passion to see your goal realized. You can’t do it for the money, you can’t do it for the fame; you must do it for the love. How passionate are you?

3. The Realization That Success is a Science

“Success is a science; if you have the conditions, you get the result.
–Oscar Wilde

Success is scientific, and it’s predictable. Its cause and effect; you do this, and you get this result. Don’t try to mystify success; this will only keep it out of your reach.
Success is a simple science; simple to understand that is.

Although success is quite simple to understand, it is usually very difficult to accomplish; difficult to accomplish, …but still worth the price.

It’s true that the price of “true success” is never too high. As the saying goes, “No journey is too great, when one finds what he seeks.” You see, “true success” is finding exactly what you seek, in every area of your life. True success, is balanced success.

4. Pure Enthusiasm

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
–Winston Churchill

To run you must first crawl, to succeed you must first fail. Failure is a part of success, you can’t separate the two. To say that you want success without failure is to say you want water, without the wet. It’s a package deal, you get them both.

Failure is the school that trains you for success; you can’t succeed without a degree from Failure State University (FSU). It’s through failure that you prepare to succeed. The secret is to never lose enthusiasm as you go from failure to failure.

If you learn from each failure, while working in an area where you’re passionate, you will make progress, and in time, you will succeed.

5. Effort, Effort, Effort

“Success is dependent on effort.”

When it’s all said and done, the person who succeeds is usually the person who has put in the most effort in a particular field. Look at the successful people in the world, the great writers, have spent the most time writing, the great actors, have spent the most time acting, the great singers, have spent the most time singing; these individuals worked towards their natural gifts, and they allowed “effort” to carry them the rest of the journey.

Are you giving your best effort? Success requires all that you are. You won’t succeed on 20 percent effort; you are going to have to give your all. So let me encourage you to give your all today, and when you do, your life will never, ever, ever be the same.

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Wonderful 5 Steps for a Happy Life - Positive Attitude

We all want a happy life, and we all know that having a positive attitude feels better than a negative one. But for some reason, we are all attracted to and can be easily drawn to the negative side. How do we go about to establish a more positive attitude as a daily habit?

Even for someone like me, who thinks about and writes about positivity on an almost daily basis, having a positive attitude is not always easy.

I still sometimes see the world through a negative perspective, focusing on the bad and ignoring the good — especially when things aren’t going the way I had hoped. As I’ve been struggling with this lately, I’ve been reminding myself that it really is possible to change my perspective.

About a year and a half ago, I decided I was going to make a change in my life. I was going to start looking for the good, seeking the positive, and striving to make every day a joyful experience.

This was something I would have never imagined myself doing, but it’s something that has impacted my life every single day since then. I’ve had to do a lot to get to where I am right now, and I still believe I have a long way to go.

I’m not searching for any particular end point, however. All I want is to be happy, to live a life that focuses more on the good than the bad (though I do believe you need both to have a happy life).

On this road — this twisting, turning road to happiness — there have been many ups and downs. There have been challenges. There have been inspirations. There have been many amazing experiences that I never would have had if I had not made the choice to live a positive and happy life.
Recently, as I struggle to be positive about certain challenging situations in my life, I’ve been giving some serious thought to how I transformed my outlook from negative-focused to a more positive-focused one. (Note: I don’t always see the good. Like everyone, I have good days and bad days, but, for the most part, there has been a BIG shift in my attitude over the past year or so).

Though I have to admit that there are many, many factors involved in my personal development — such as my therapist, the countless books and blogs I read, creating my blog, and surrounding myself with happy, supportive people — I can say that, at the most basic level, choosing to be positive has helped me the most in terms of becoming the person I want to be.

When I think back on my transformation now, I recognize that the following five steps are the best ways to begin stumbling down that path to happiness by establishing a habit of positive attitude.

5 Steps to a Happy Life with Positive Attitude

Step 1: Believe Happiness is a Choice

For me, this was a hard one at first. I thought that people were either unhappy or happy (and I was one of the unhappy ones). I used to blame this on all kinds of outside forces –- fate, experiences, parents, relationships –- but never really stopped to think that I could choose to be happy.

Sure, this isn’t always easy, but it is always, always an option. Teaching myself to see that happiness is a choice has been one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for myself.

Now when I find myself in a bad situation, I know that it’s up to me to find the good, to be happy regardless of what’s happening around me. I am no longer pointing fingers, placing blame. I realize that everything happens how it happens and it’s up to me to choose how I want to feel about it. I am in control of my happiness level and no one can take that away from me.

Step 2: Rid Your Life of Negativity

If you want to live a positive, joyful and happy life, you cannot –- absolutely CANNOT -– be surrounded by negative people who are not encouraging your happiness. When I was a pretty negative person, I tended to attract other negative people.

When I decided to make the change to live a more positive life, I had to rid my life of all of the negative people in it. This, as you can imagine, wasn’t easy. Getting rid of people hurts -– even when you know they aren’t good for you or your current lifestyle.

Not only did I have to get rid of the negative people, but I also had to get rid of the negative things too. I had to stop doing certain things that were causing negativity in my life. I had to take a step back and examine which behaviors were good for me and which were not.

I learned to focus on the positive things I was doing and let go of the negative ones. This process was not easy and to be honest, is still ongoing, but I know this: having negativity in your life prevents you from living a truly positive existence.

Step 3: Look For the Positive in Life

There is the positive aspect in everything. In every person, in every situation, there is something good. Most of the time it’s not all that obvious. We have to look. And sometimes we have to look hard.

The old me just sat back and allowed things to happen by default. If I saw negative, I went with that feeling. I didn’t want to look harder or think too much about the good. I found it much, much easier to sit back and just accept what I saw (which was usually the bad).

Now, when I’m faced with a difficult or challenging situation, I think to myself, “What is good about this?” No matter how terrible the situation might seem, I always can find something good if I take the time to think about it.

Everything –- good and bad -– is a learning experience. So, at the very least, you can learn from bad experiences. However, there’s usually even more to it than that. If you really take the time to look, you will usually find something good, something really positive, about every person or situation.

Step 4: Reinforce Positivity in Yourself

Once I started thinking more positively and adapted to a more positive attitude, I realized I had to reinforce these thoughts and behaviors in myself so they would stick. As with any sort of training, practice makes perfect, and, yes, you can practice being positive.

The best and easiest way to do this is to be positive when it comes to who you are. Tell yourself you’re awesome. Tell yourself you look good. Tell yourself that you love and accept yourself completely. Tell yourself you did an awesome job at work or raising your kids or whatever it is you do.

Be honest with yourself, but do your best to look for the good. And, whatever you do, don’t focus on the negative. Nothing good can come of telling yourself that your butt’s too big or your latest career goal wasn’t met.

It’s okay to not like everything about yourself (yet), but don’t spend energy dwelling on the negative. Remind yourself of the good in you. We all have positive attributes and it’s up to you to remind yourself of them every day.

Step 5: Share Happiness with Others

Not only do you need to be positive with yourself for this new positive attitude to really take effect, you also need to be positive with others. You have to share your wealth of positivity with the world.
The best way I’ve found to do this is quite simple and basic: be nice. Be nice to other people, no matter what. Tell someone he or she looks nice today. Tell someone they did a great job on that presentation. Tell your parents or children (or both!) how much you love them and how great they are.

When someone is feeling down, do what you can to cheer him or her up. Send flowers. Write notes. Don’t gossip. Be kind to all living things. All of these things sound basic enough, but, for someone like me, they didn’t used to come easily.

In the past, I didn’t wanted to see the good in myself and, therefore, didn’t want to see it in others either. I used to be critical and condescending. Now I strive to be encouraging and supportive. I try not only to treat others, as I would like to be treated, but also to consider how they would like to be treated.

People appreciate positivity and the more you are sharing it with others, the more you are practicing it and reinforcing it in your own life.

Parting Words on the Positive Attitude Habit

When you start feeling like the idea of being a positive person is daunting, tell yourself this: “If someone who really used to struggle with a negative attitude, turned her life around with these five steps, then I can too!”

If anyone had told me a few years ago that I would be writing an article about developing a positive attitude and living a happy life, I would have laughed right in their face. I would have said, “Why in the world would someone want me to write about positivity?”

But here I am, writing this post, believing in these words, and knowing that every single day I am getting closer and closer to living the happy life I’ve secretly dreamed of living. If I can do it, you can do it. Believe in yourself and remember the most important lesson of all… a positive outlook is a choice. Choose to be positive. Choose to be happy. Life is short.

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