Monday, February 16, 2015

Ways To Inspire Everyone Around You


        There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it. Live by choice, not by chance. Make changes, not excuses. Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete. Listen to your own inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else. This is the way to inspire people!  This is how you can grow into the best version of YOU!
Here are a few more ideas to get you started with inspiring everyone around you:
1.   Be authentic and true to yourself
2.   Stick with what you love
3.   Express your enthusiasm
4.   Excel at what you do
5.   Focus on building your character
6.   Care about people
7.   Challenge people to do their best
8.   Lead by example
9.   Articulate what everyone else is thinking
10.  Make people feel good about themselves
11.  Help people heal
12.  Share lessons from your successes and failures
13.  Keep your cool in tense situations
14.  Focus on the positive
15.  Keep your promises and tell the truth. 
16.  Listen intently to what others say
17.  Communicate clearly
18.  Be faithful to your significant other
In the end, everything you need to inspire everyone around you is contained within you.  So get out there and start inspiring people with who you are and how you live your life.

THAT LAUGH….

             Walking towards the river Hoogly with sweat flowing all over his body on a sunny day in Kolkata,Magadh the boatman was thinking about his children and wife who would be waiting for their father to bring some food from the day’s earning. As an artist, this river was like his stage. He touched his boat as it was a masterpiece for him. He took out his oars  and rowed the boat to the river for a little while , then sat along the coast wishing for some costumers to arrive.The day was about to end and like most of the days he was only able to earn a few rupees. He was about to take out his boat when he saw two men standing along the coast. One of them had a electronic component in his hand.”Would you mind rowing us around,We are making a documentary on this place?”the tall one said.”20 rupees for two rounds” Magadh raised the price , noticing their fancy clothes. The two men were not that naïve to accept the deal but after some bargaining the deal was set to 4 rounds for 30.They sat in the boat and Magadh started rowing the boat.There was a silence for some time, until the tall man asked”How much money do you earn usually in a day”.Magadh said “Around 50 rupees, sir, but why are you interested ? Even our government doesn’t care ”. 
                     ”Just improving my general knowledge” and the tall man smiled.”What if I give you ₹2000 just now” the tall man said looking away from Magadh.”₹2000,you have got a bad sense of humour ,sir” Magadh said with a flickering smile on his sad face.The tall man turned his face towards Magadh and with a loud voice and said  “We are from a television show named "Giving Happiness"where we donate money to hard working people as to inspire and motivate them and to let them know  that because of their hard work they deserve this moment of happiness”.Magadh was shocked and with an emotionless face he sat there for a few seconds and then he touched the money with his finger to make himself believe that it was real.His doomed face then had an bright smile which smile turned into an laugh and  what a laugh it was?.It was the kind of laugh which gives you the pleasure when you acknowledge it without knowing the reason.The tall man asked “How do you feel?” Magadh replied with the words between his laugh “It’s not about the money.It will be gone within a week, but its about making me believe that there are people in this world who still respect our hard work and care about us.”

How to Forgive


               One of the thorniest and most difficult things we humans are ever called upon to do is to respond to evil with kindness, and to forgive the unforgivable. We love to read stories about people who have responded to hatred with love, but when that very thing is demanded of us personally, our default seems to be anger, angst (dread or anguish), depression, self-righteousness, hatred, etc. Yet study after study shows that one of the keys to longevity and good health is to develop a habit of gratitude and let go of past hurts.Want to live a long, happy life? Forgive the unforgivable. It really is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.Your enemy may not deserve to be forgiven for all the pain and sadness and suffering purposefully inflicted on your life, but you deserve to be free of this evil. 
1.Realize that the hate you feel toward your adversary does not harm him or her in the way that you want:-"Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for it to kill your enemy.
2.Understand that the best revenge against your enemies is to live a successful and happy life.:- Want to get even with someone who tried to destroy you? Show them and show yourself (and the world) that the obstacles they tried to create were not significant enough to disable you and/or destroy you.
3.Realize that the second best revenge is to turn the evil into something good, to find the proverbial silver lining in the dark cloud:- Think of your enemy as someone who has helped you to grow. Even though unfortunate things happen to us, the best thing we can do is take those opportunities as tests that will either destroy or strengthen us. If you've been through something, it didn't destroy you - take what you learned and become a better person because of it.
4.Make a list of the good things that emerged as a result of this awful experience:- You've probably focused long enough on the negative parts of this experience. Look at the problem from a completely new angle; look at the positive side. The first item on that list may be long overdue because you have focused on the negative for so long. See if you can identify 10 positive outcomes of this experience.
5.Look for the helpers:- Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers) related that, as a little boy, he'd often become upset about major catastrophes in the news. His mother would tell him, "look for the helpers." In your own nightmarish experience, think back to the people who helped you. Think about their kindness and selflessness Practice what you have learned from them.Was someone your "Good Samaritan"? In this biblical story, a traveler helps a poor soul who was beaten up on the road to Jericho and left for dead. Perhaps this isn't all about you. Perhaps your trial provided an opportunity for others to rise to an occasion to provide you with help and support.
6.Be compassionate with yourself:- If you've ruminated over this problem for a long time, steering this boat into a new direction could take some time, too. As you try to make a new path out of the dark woods of this old hurt, you'll make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Be patient and kind to yourself. Extreme emotional pain has a profound effect on the body. Give yourself time to heal - physically and emotionally. Eat well. Rest. Focus on the natural beauty in the world. Give yourself permission to feel the emotions and process them. Don't bottle up the pain.
7.Learn that the Aramaic word for "forgive" means literally to "untie." The fastest way to free yourself from an enemy and all associated negativity is to forgive. Untie the bindings and loosen yourself from that person's ugliness. Your hatred has tied you to the person responsible for your pain. Your forgiveness enables you to start walking away from him or her and the pain. Forgiveness is for you and not the other party. Freeing yourself through forgiveness is like freeing yourself from chains of bondage or from prison.
8.Learn how to balance trust with wisdom:- It's a fact that not all of our fellow humans are trustworthy. Painful memories can serve to protect us from future hurts. As author Rose Sweet writes, "A lack of trust is sometimes simply recognizing another's limitations".
9.Stop telling "the story.":- How many times this week did you tell "the story" about how badly you were hurt and how horribly you were wronged? How many times a day do you think about this hurt? It is a stake driven into the ground that keeps you from moving away from this hurt. Rather, forgive your enemy because it's the kindest thing you can do for your friends and family. Negativity is depressing - physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally.
10.Tell "the story" from the other person's perspective:- Actually imagine that you are the other person (the one who offended you) and use the word "I" when saying what that person would say. You, most likely, don't know exactly what s/he was thinking when this event unfolded but pretend that you do, and just go with the story that comes up in your head. Sit down with a friend, or maybe even the person you are trying to forgive, and tell the story as though you are that person. It is important to do this verbally and not just in your head. Realize in advance that this is not an easy exercise, but it holds great power. Your willingness to tell the story from the offender's perspective requires an effort at forgiveness. Also, realize that this is not a contradiction to the preceding paragraph since this perspective will change your story.
11.Retrain your thinking:-. When your enemy and his or her evil actions come to mind, send him or her a blessing. Wish your enemy well. Hope the best for him or her. This has two effects. One, it neutralizes that acid of hate that destroys the vessel in which it is stored. The evil we wish for another seems to have a rebound effect. The same is true for the good that we wish for another. When you make yourself able to return blessing for hatred, you'll know that you're well on the path to wholeness. 
12.Maintain perspective:- While the "evil" actions of your "enemy" are hurtful to you and your immediate surroundings, the rest of the world goes on unaware. Validate their meaning in your life, but never lose perspective that others are not involved and do not deserve anything to be taken out on them. Your enemy is someone else's beloved child, someone's employee, or a child's parent.